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We all hear and perceive things in different ways.\\nWhile this is normal, it's important to acknowledge so we can deal with it when\\nwe don't like what we hear or perceive. This happens to me on a regular basis in\\nthe working world.\"), mdx(\"p\", null, \"I'm in a meeting and someone says something a particular way I perceive as\\nhurtful. Or I read a comment in some project-management software or chat app\\nthat I react the same way to. No matter where and when it happens, my reaction\\nis to immediately assume the worst \\u2014 or, at least, it used to be. I think the\\nother person meant it maliciously, and I start making up stories in my head\\nabout their intention.\"), mdx(\"p\", null, mdx(\"strong\", {\n    parentName: \"p\"\n  }, \"DO NOT DO THIS.\")), mdx(\"p\", null, \"The first step is to pull that person aside one-on-one and tell them how you\\nperceived their comment. I guarantee it will be a misunderstanding to be\\nimmediately clarified. 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